Posted 10/20/12 by Amy Willsey in News

Jef and Emily: Surprising Stop in Splitsville

Devastation. Betrayal. Shock.

No, I’m not talking about the questions my ancient criminology professor so rudely asked on our midterm today … though those words describe the emotions I had afterward.

These words, and so many more inappropriate ones, are all about my favorite reality television couple, “Jemily.” Jef “with one f” Holm and Emily Maynard got engaged at the end of an eight-week whirlwind adventure on the eighth season of The Bachelorette. Although engaged since the beginning of May, the world found out about the engagement on the season finale that aired July 22.

So, as I see it, we had a little under three months to be joyously happy, and then the rose-colored glasses were ripped from our faces when the news broke on Tuesday that it was OVER. Devastated, I tell you – utterly devastated.

I read the news in People while in the engineering library (yes, I know the journalism school would be more appropriate – don’t ask) and I audibly gasped out loud. Let me tell you, I got some looks.

Each half of the couple were courteous enough to give statements in a respectable time frame – had they waited any longer than just hours to open up about what happened, I would’ve exploded.



“Meeting Emily on The Bachelorette was an incredible experience, we’ve had quite the journey. I’ve never loved someone so much in my whole life, Emily is the best person and mom I have ever met. She opened up her world to me and I fell in love with her, [her daughter] Ricki, her family and the Hendricks.
“She has a great group of people who surround her. What we shared was completely genuine and real and it breaks my heart but we have decided to break up.
“Emily will always have a special place in my heart. I don’t regret a single second I spent with her or Ricki. They both have been a huge part of my life. Who knows what tomorrow will bring but we are moving on to the next chapter of our lives.
“Emily and I are great friends and I hope we can continue to be friends forever. Everyone wants a salacious story to break, but the truth is we are just two people who fell in love and tried our hardest to make it work. I will always love her.”



“I am sorry to tell you that Jef and I have, indeed, parted ways,” Maynard says. “It was a very difficult and heartbreaking decision.
“As you know, at first I wasn’t sure that I should even be The Bachelorette, but I am a hopeless romantic and I do believe in the show. I have no regrets because I did find love and shared an incredible journey with a really special person – and you know what, we tried our best because the love between us was so real.
“I have nothing but respect and love for Jef and his family, but ultimately we are just at different points in our lives.
“I’ve learned so much and I’m grateful for all of the support I’ve received. I’m excited and hopeful for the next chapter in my life with my daughter, Ricki. I do hope that you will respect our privacy and allow us the time we need to heal.”


Although the actual day of the two’s split is uncertain, these statements were published on Tuesday. It was days before that in which Emily changed her twit pic from one of the happy couple to one of her and her 7-year-old daughter, Ricki. And Jef did the same thing – but went to a solo photo.

Arie and Jef playing golf days after Jemily’s breakup
Photo from NY Daily News

If you guys read my article at the end of July after Jef and Emily got engaged, then I don’t need to tell you how much I LOVE Jef Holm. But I must say, Arie, the runner-up to Jef in the season, must be a pretty special guy, for just days after the news of Jemily’s breakup, he took Jef golfing in Arizona to take his mind off of things.

Basically, I was rooting for Jef and Emily so incredibly much. They were targets of what I hope to be vicious rumors regarding infidelity and payment to Jef from Emily to stay in the relationship. Who really knows what ended the cutest couple in Hollywood – and I am truly sad to hear it’s over – but Jef, if you need a rebound, I’m not above being that girl.

Who else was upset about this news? And what other girl wouldn’t mind seeing him as a potential future Bachelor for the sole purpose of getting a chance to date him?!

Amy Willsey

I'm a junior magazine journalism major and business minor at the University of Missouri. I came from the lovely Kansas City and am a die hard Royals and Chiefs fan. I enjoy long-distance runs, alliteration and I spend my free time finding the fraternities with the cutest puppies. Carry on, all you pretty people, carry on.