Right now, what’s trending on the runway are all things bright and neon. If the idea of color blocking sends you immediately back into your closet to hide behind that same black shirt and jeans, you can do your brights in moderation, one bright piece at a time. Below are 4 pink fashion trends you can rock on a first date. Pink being the epitome of all thing “woman,” and something to get you noticed when you first walk into that swanky restaurant. Heads will turn, and I promise, it won’t just be your date who will notice. They say confidence is the most attractive quality in a woman, right? That’s why I promote this bright trend for a first date. It shows you’re bold enough to rock it!

1. Pleats in Chiffon

I used to think of pleats only in terms of unflattering school girl uniforms. But pleats have made a comeback, ditching the heavy polyester and large sections and donning breezy chiffon with tiny, feminine sections. If you can’t decide what to wear on a first date, you can never go wrong with wearing the most feminine thing you own as long as it’s activity appropriate.

These three outfits would be great for a classy dinner or a dinner theater. They would be great for an art gallery or a trip to the museum, the ballet or the opera, anywhere you want to show up not too casual, but also don’t want to be over dressed.

Remember, when you go with pleats, think tiny and choose flowy, airy fabrics.

I think the key to wearing these kinds of pleats is to either wear them right above the knee, on the knee, or right below the knee. Some women may be able to get away with floor length or mid calf length pleats, but most women will drown in the excess of fabric.

2. The Bright Pink Skinny or Wide Pant

Want to go even more casual but don’t want to look too simple in your jeans and t-shirt? Maybe you’re just meeting up at a bar to play pool and darts and have a beer. Why not try the hot pink pant trend?

You can tone it down by wearing a neutral, feminine top like this:

Or throw in some nautical elements with a navy blazer and striped shirt like this:

If you’re not too keen on the skinny pant trend, you can still pull off the pink pant trend with a wide leg trouser. This look is adorable: (although I might lose some of the hardware. Too much jewelry can put some men off) The lose tank is perfect.

3. Sheer or Flowy Pink Blouse

What else can you wear besides pink pants or pink pleats? How about a lovely sheer-ish blouse?

It doesn’t get much sexier than this:

Sexy without showing off too much skin, cleavage, leg, that’s the sexiest form of sexy. Subtly sexy leaves room for the imagination, and that has more power than showcasing all of your goods. Here’s a lovely flowy sleeveless number with an adorable bow detail on the shoulder.

I found this flowy antique rose top at Target. Score!

4. The Pink Hot Pant

If you have great legs, you might want to get on board with the hot pant trend. These looks would be great to wear to play putt-putt, or if your first date will be at a carnival, fair or outdoor concert. These looks would be cute if you’re just going to meet up for coffee and then walking downtown to check out cute stores. Or maybe you’re just going to throw a frisbee in the park, play on the swings and have a picnic. These outfits would fit the bill. How lovely are these ladies?

And my favorite pink shorts have a nautical hint… side buttons!

Whatever you decide to wear, remember to choose something classy and feminine. And most importantly, if you’re not feeling 100% comfortable, change your outfit! No guy wants to be on a date with a woman who’s constantly having to adjust her top or her skirt every five minutes and is paying more attention to her outfit than to him. Have fun!

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What’s the secret to making your love a lasting one?    What’s the secret to keeping sexual passion alive?    There’s no one best answer, and every couple is different.   But many sex therapists, myself included, talk about something called “differentiation” as a key factor.   Differentation means being able to take care of yourself, as a separate person, while you’re in intimate dialog with your mate.

A popular book on the subject of differentiation is David Schnarch’sPassionate Marriage. Schnarch has probably done more than any modern sex therapist to promote the idea of differentiation as a core value in a romantic partnership.

Differentiation is hard. Especially if one hasn’t seen it demonstrated in one’s family of origin.   One of the benefits of a good enough marriage or any other deep partnership is that it provides a holding place in which differentiation can occur.   In which each partner can “become more truly oneself.”

Differentiation is not easy to describe, as an idea and as a feeling.    Many couples tell me,   “It sounds nice, but I don’t get what it’s supposed to feel like”

In such situations, I offer an analogy:

Let’s say you really want to go out for sushi, and your boyfriend/husband really wants pizza.   You could (1) go along with his wish.   (2) insist he go along with yours     (3) decide to go to separate restaurants.    All pretty conventional approaches.

None of them, though, are going to help you feel what it’s like to be more differentiated.

But let’s say that instead you decide to (4) stand on the street bickering about it, getting more and more hungry and upset, and wondering if this relationship is really going to work.

Now that’s a good start!   You’re suffering together.    You’re both being real clear about what you want, and advocating for your own needs.

Now let’s say you’re so exhausted that you say to each other, “let’s see if we can find a place that would work for us both.”   You walk down the street looking at restaurants.  You find an Indian place that looks promising, but you discover that one or both of you don’t really like Indian food.

The next night you go out again, thinking, “there’s got to be SOMETHING that we both like – and damn-it, we’re going to find it together!”

Now you’re really on your way!    And when at long last, after many weeks of searching, you find a kind of food you both like, and a restaurant that serves it, you are so happy and feel so accomplished, that it becomes “your restaurant.”  You find recipes for all their dishes and start learning to make them at home.

Those recipes are YOURS as a couple.   You worked hard for them.    They belong to no one but the two of you.    They are your story – of keeping faith with yourself, and with each other.

If you’d never met each other, you’d never have found them.   The relationship (this is important) took you someplace that neither of you ever intended to go.    The relationship expanded you, and changed you.   But it only did so BECAUSE you and your mate both insisted on what you really wanted. The answer wasn’t clear at first – but you found it.

You’ve differentiated from your respective families as well.   No one in either of your families ever knew anything about that kind of cuisine.     Your families think your new dining habits are a little strange.    But they don’t understand about this particular journey you’ve been on together.

Only the two of you understand.  You’ve become a more differentiated couple.    Now you’re more confident that you can each take care of your own wants and needs in the relationship, and make it work.

And you know that the next time you stand together on the street bickering about whatever the next thing is . . .

You’ll figure it out.

What kind of girl are you?

Before you build your image, know who you want to be and what you want guys to think of you. While the show generally only provides the opportunity to laugh at other people’s stupidity, there are terms taken from the Jersey Shore that are actually really accurate as to what college guys think and talk about when you aren’t there. Let me clarify the context of the terms so you can understand what category you might want to fall under.

a) Slampiece= Congrats! You are hot… but not much else.

• What is a slampiece? Well, let me explain: when guy-A goes on spring break, his buddy, guy-B, will ask when he comes home, “How many slampieces did you slay?” — Translation: How many hot chicks did you bang? So, in other words, you are a chick he doesn’t plan on seeing again. He thinks of you strictly as someone to lust over and nothing more. It is worthy for attention, but not respectable if you actually want to be girlfriend material. Now, let’s say you actually want to be girlfriend material after you were a slampiece for the attention and fun of it, honestly, your reputation might be tarnished. If the guy you want to be with finds out you were the girl who some guy hooked up with and left, that will be a HUGE turnoff. — Think about it; would an employer hire someone with a clean record, or someone who has a long list of men, ahem, I mean misdemeanors. This is all relative, you could say the same about him, and how much is too much is up to you– something to keep in mind.

b) Wifey= Let’s be honest; what most girls really want at the end of the day.

• To become a wifey you need to know a few things. You will be the girl a guy sees himself with, the girl a guy may actually fall for, and the girl who has the qualities men can tolerate in the long run. What qualities are those? Well, they can vary from guy to guy. It depends on what kind of guy you go for.
• So, if being a slampiece is what you want, go dance on a bar somewhere. If you’re ready for something a little more serious, read on.
• Don’t worry, I won’t leave you hanging. I will give you 5 qualities that I personally look for when I’m looking for wifey. I have discussed these qualities with many other guys and they seem to be pretty popular.

Qualities Guys Like in a Girlfriend:

• Classy: This is extremely important. You have to be a girl who I have to work for. If I can tell you are easy, you are not valuable. Anything worth having I should have to work for. Make sure you compose yourself this way and guys will pick up on that. And it will keep you with a good track record. Avoid looking easy at all costs.

• Sweet: If I’m personally going to be with a girl all the time, it’s really great to have someone who is kind and easy going. If a girl seems like she’s always fighting with people and causing drama, yuck, I don’t want to be involved with more problems.

• Sense of Humor: This is vital. I’m telling you girls, this is the key to getting past the lust and sex vision men have. When a guy can sit there and laugh his ass off with you, you have a great shot at winning him over. Find someone with a similar sense of humor because they vary. If most of his jokes are good, then you’re in good shape.

• Smart: You need to be smart. Period. There are way too many girls out there who think it’s cute to be a ditz, but you know what, many guys take that as a sign to take advantage of you– just hook up with the ditz, what does she care, she’s just the ditz. But if we meet a girl who understands “it” and gets “it”, then you can play the game too. If we can sit there and have a good conversation with you about a deeper topic than what the Kardashians are up to, then you’re on the right path. Have a little more to you then what’s expected– something unique and interesting. Guys love that.

• Knows how to have fun: If we take you out and you have fun, then you are compatible. If we take you out and you are complaining the entire time, something is always wrong, or you can’t seem to be happy– no. Guys look for a girl who is enjoyable and can have fun. So learn how to enjoy the hiccups in the dates.

I hope this article helped out. Share your thoughts with a comment below. So ladies, are you a Wifey or a Slampiece?

Men, you need to be prepared and well trained in the art of woman. You’re in college and dating is much more relaxed than high school but you aren’t necessarily an expert in a healthy relationship yet. This isn’t an easy or logical topic but don’t worry, LTCL has your back. In this post we cover 6 rules every EVERY guy should follow if he wants to have a healthy relationship in college. Don’t worry men, the woman has to give you certain things as well, we will cover those in a future post.

Before we get into the rules, it’s important to note: if you plan on being single and having fun, more power to you, but this post is for guys who are ready to have something more serious.

RULE 1: Security

• It doesn’t matter what her age is. Women need security from you. When she is secure she can trust you. As fun as it is to go from bar to bar on the weekends, you need to decide if you are ready to give that up that lifestyle when you get into a serious relationship. Women hate to feel like they might be cheated on, and so giving her security in a relationship is very important. If you do go out with some friends keep your nose clean and make sure you keep her updated on your whereabouts.

Rule 2: Excitement

• In the beginning it’s always exciting to be in the relationship. Butterflies and puppy love everywhere, but you need to maintain some excitement and not become complacent or boring. After the first few months of infatuation wears, make an effort to keep things exciting and unexpected. Be spontaneous.

Rule 3: Sex/Desire

• Sex. Yeah this one isn’t too bad is it, gentlemen? A woman needs sex; not just physically but emotionally. She needs to feel desired and wanted from you. Make sure to combine rules 2 and 3 so you can be in for an good night . Use protection! If you are saving yourself, you can still make her feel desired, you might just have to be a bit more creative about it.

Rule 4: Authenticity

• This is clutch. Many guys lose themselves in a relationship and forget who they are. Be yourself, be authentic– show her who you truly are and she will be attracted by how much confidence you have in yourself. Being authentic makes you more interesting because it avoids becoming too agreeable which is a very common problem with young guys. If she’s talking to you and you agree with everything she said just so she can like you, you are going to get the opposite results. Nobody wants to date someone who always agrees and does what they say. She will end up walking all over you. This doesn’t mean be a jerk, but express your opinions to her as well. Be authentic, keep her guessing, and you will be in good shape.

Rule 5: Emotional Support

• Not what many of you wanted to hear, but this is something women need. You must be there for her emotionally. She needs you to be there for her when she’s having a bad day or is stressed out. Many guys really struggle with this because they tend to be much less emotional so you don’t really relate to her state of mind. Always be there for her. Think about it– if she comes home from a difficult day of work or classes and she can’t go to you to vent or talk to then she will just feel alone and probably more stressed. Hopefully she knows to be there for you as well.

Rule 6: Respect

• This might seem obvious. Every relationship whether it be romantic or friendship needs respect. You cannot be disrespectful to her nor should you tolerate her being disrespectful to you. Disagreements are going to happen, but once you start the name calling, or worst, that will lead down a slippery slope. If you feel like you are currently with someone who will not respect you, then you need to get out of the relationship now. There are way too many people out there who will treat you better.

Those are some rules we hope can shine a little light on your current or future relationships. Remember to always be and love yourself before you jump into any relationship. Please let us know what you think and don’t forget to show us some love by “liking” our Facebook page.

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5 Qualities EVERY Guy Likes in a Girlfiend

Age old battle between nice guys and bad boys. Here KassemG asks some ladies on Venice Beach.

These girls let us know the various opinions which most “nice guys” spend way too much time thinking about and bad boys don’t. The reason being is that the girl doesn’t like a bad boy, she likes a guy who is confident and interesting. We will be making a longer more in depth post about this issue soon.

Ladies reading this, help the guys out and let them know what the answer is with a comment down below…

Ok, Ladies. This is how to have a boyfriend and guyfriend from a boyfriend’s perspective.. It’s a tricky situation that varies from couple to couple but here are some general guides to use if you are to maintain a healthy relationship. Some of these suggestions are based by experience and conversations with other students who both have had relationships fail, and succeed through guy friend related problems. When a boyfriend hears that you have a “guy friend” we assume the friend likes you and would get with you if he had the chance. We know how most guys operate and our true intentions. We’re in college and the majority of us just have one thing in mind. With that said, we need to limit jealousy. Being too jealous is just being insecure, and restricting a girl will only push her away. Also, jealousy can lead to an uncomfortable game of making the other more jealous and then eventually break up anyways…

This article assumes the following list (if any of these aren’t met then you are addressing the wrong problem):

• You’re in a relationship with communication and trust.
• Both of you actually want to be in a relationship.
• You are happy in your current relationship.
• The guy you are friends with is straight.
• You intend on having no feelings for guy friend as more than a friend.

How We See Guy Friends

There are many things in this world boyfriends are more fond of than your guy friends. Regardless, we need to learn to deal with them. No matter what girl we date, she probably has a few guy friends. It’s given. You should be allowed to have guy friends (just “friends”). You’ve had them before so limiting you to only interact with girls is unreasonable. If a you can’t keep your nose clean with your guy friends then you’re not worth our time anyways. How you go about having a guy friend makes all the difference in the eyes of us. You should be considerate in how your friendships come off to us. Here are the guidelines which are most important to having both guy friendships and a boyfriend:

Analyze the Friendship

Analyze the situation and context of said friendship. Why do you want to be friends with him? Why does he want to be friends with you? There is no possible way to cover every scenario so here is the official LTCL guyfriend approval Self Test to make sure this is an acceptable or unacceptable guy friend. Ask yourself the following questions. If any of these are answered as yes, you should probably not have this friend:

Self Test

• Would this friend make an attempt to hook up with you if you were both drunk?
• Has he admitted that he likes you as more than a friend?
• Does he hook up with a lot of girls?
• Would he stop hanging out with you if he were to have a new girlfriend?

Introduce Guy Friend to Boyfriend

Guys like to be reassured they are the one you like and that they don’t have anything to worry about, remember that. Be considerate and let him know everything and address any issues he might have. If you aren’t clear about the situation or leave anything out, it will create doubt. If he has nothing to worry about you should have no problem letting him know the situation.

Introduction should be done in a party or social event. Calling your friend over and just introducing them would just be awkward and there should be no reason to schedule a time just to meet a friend. Also, this guy better fluent in expected bro-rules and “guy friend” behavior.

If you were to hang out with this guy friend (after introduction to boyfriend), event should revolve around a non date type of situation. Also, keep it limited. If you’re always going to lunch with your friend, might be a problem. It’s uncomfortable for a boyfriend to know that and can come off as sketch. Ask your boyfriend if he thinks its okay and make sure he knows you went out! When you see your friend you can do things such as:

• Getting lunch at a low-key joint such as Bread Co. or Mikey D’s.
• Hanging out with mutual friends.
• Study together on campus.

If you haven’t already, check out our LTCL article, Can Guys and Girls be Just Friends– also has some info on guy friends. I’ts true that reguardless of all this information your guy friend might still like you as more than just a friend. These situations are subjective so you should also rely on your gut feeling. If you are considerate, and you’re boyfriend and guyfriend understand the situation then you should be fine.

If you think we forgot something, let us know with a comment below…

The One Night Stand In College

I have both guy and girl friends and they tend to view a one night stand in college differently. So here’s the situation: my best guy friend recently turned to me and told me about one of his sexcapades he was just so proud of. And as a female – I was wondering why I had to hear every detail, but it then occurred that he didn’t care who he was telling; it just had to be told to someone.  On average, men are 18 percent more likely to say they hooked up with someone than women are; can’t say I’m shocked. But that’s not really the point; the point is that girls seem to be getting easier and easier.

What guys don’t get is that if a girl is willing to sleep with you after knowing little to nothing about you, then it’s likely she’s spending a lot of time on her back. And you can’t even argue that he’s just down for a hookup.

But it makes me question, are we girls too judgmental of other girls? You know what I say; somebody has to keep the sluts at bay. Not to mention, if we let the carefree-sleep-with-anyone-once girls run free, they’ll ruin the good guys. I am legitimately concerned about the type of guys we are forced to deal with in college. Again, I’m not referring to all guys. I’d like to know just how often guys tell their friends detail by detail a hook up story. And when and where it’s appropriate to make a one night stand a girlfriend. So I asked a few of my guy friends and these are their responses:

The typical fraternity guy:
If I had sex with her the first night, yeah, I’d do it again

The country man:
Sure, I got it in… but there is little to no chance I’ll pursue something.

The math genius:
She’s a slut… doesn’t take much to figure that out.

In the real world man:
If I want to sleep with a girl once, I’ll find someone that I’m not that in to.

How do you know if she really likes you? How much would men pay to read a girls mind? Well, you don’t need to pay, here are 9 ways to decode those, many times, confusing signals you may get from a girl. The following points come from surveys of many of you college girls. If you ask yourself, why cant she just be straight forward? Why can’t she just tell you that she likes you? Well, that would require another article. For now, here are the 9 signs she likes you:

1. Preening: When you walk into a room a girl will adjust her hair its called “preening.” So if you see her adjust clothing or redo her make up, this is a clear sign she’s interested. She wants to look good for you.
2. Nervous: Even if she’s confident she may be nervous. Notice hints such as a slight stutter or fidgeting with her hands. This is all completely normal and may be more noticeable on some girls than others. Blushing is also a classic giveaway.
   

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3. Eye Contact: Short burst of eye contact. This is something she might do from across the room. She might glance over then look away, then glance again. This is a great sign. If she does this 4 times it means she’s thinking about talking to you. Another sign would be if she holds a stare for longer than three seconds. Studies show if you are attracted you will hold the glance for more than three seconds, she probably thinks you’re cute. If you’re interested, go up to her and introduce yourself!
4. Damsel in Distress: If you’re with a girl and she seems in need, she might give you subtle hints that she needs you. For example, if she asks you to lend her your jacket when it’s not that cold, or mentions that she’s frightened of the scary movie and needs someone to watch it with. This is all great. Time for you to help her out, big guy.
5. Touchy-Feely: She might be very close to you when you talk and she gets close to let you know something and grabs your arm to tell you. Also, she might grab your hand to take you somewhere. This is usually a sign that she’s interested.
6. Going Where You Go: This is no coincidence. If you talk to a girl about going somewhere later and you run into her, this usually means she made plans to see you. So if youre getting food and she happens to be there with one of her friends. Yes.
7. Making Fun: If you are with her and her friends and you see her friends making fun of her, or whispering, giggling this is a sure sign shes interested’and has probably been talking about it. May not happen as much when you get older but this is not something to be over looked.
8. Girlfriend?: Bringing up your love life. If she asks if you are talking to any girls or have a girlfriend this is her scoping out your love life to see if there is room for her.
9. Flirty: If you have your friends over and you see her a little flirtatious, she’s checking to see your reaction. She may even bring up the boyfriend she doesn’t have. She may also talk about how hot a movie star is, or she might even show you a picture of a pretty friend she has and ask you what you think. This is all of course to check your reaction or show you are slightly jealous for her.

Hope these tips help. Now get out there, be confident, and let the girls tell you what you want to hear.

The First Date

Alright, gentlemen… Show of hands… Who remembers the movie “Pleasantville”? It’s the 1950’s. Elvis was still the King, poodle skirts dominated the ladies fashion scene, we all knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that the communists were the “bad guys” and chivalry remained in its prime.  Yes, that indeed was a rather different time. Nowadays Justin Bieber is the unchallenged dictator of pop music, the poodle skirt has been reduced to a mere loincloth, nobody has any clue as to who the good guys really are anymore and chivalry struggles for each breath on life support. On the surface, it would appear that last half-century has seen a radical change in social norms. We can analyze the evolution of society and safely suggest that the world of “Pleasantville” is a polar opposite of today’s shoot first, ask questions later, fly by the seat of our pants approach to the world around us. And it’s undeniably true.

Image: Pleasantville 1998 – New Line Cinema Productiontrue.

With one exception, of course. You guessed it… The world of dating. From what I can surmise, the entire scheme of the dating game has remained largely unchanged. And so there you have it. After sixty years, the advent of color television, the fall of communism and the veritable dark ages of 80’s fashion, we reach the present day. Where within the world of dating, the players have changed but the game remains the same.

So what’s the big deal, anyway? You’d think that it would appear relatively cut and dry, right? Boy likes girl. Girl likes boy. Boy+Girl+Attraction=Success. Oh if only that were true. Unfortunately, the dating game is largely a shining spectacle of smoke and mirrors. And gentlemen… When it comes to first dates, appearances are often times more deceiving than we like to admit. Now, I don’t mean to frighten you.  I simply want to empower you.  I want you to learn to harness your awareness with regard to the opposite sex and the successful execution of the all-feared first date. With that being said, let’s explore some of the basic, fundamental principles you’ll need to remember in order to sweep her off her feet and close out the evening like a boss.

-The Approach-

Say what you will about the other facets of the first dates. I simply don’t care, seeing as how they pale in comparison to the initial approach. Alright guys, you’ve finally made up your mind. For whatever your rationale and whatever your reasoning, you’ve made the conscious decision to pursue a girl that you deem worthy. So, now what? First things first guys. You’ve got to clear the largest hurdle in the entire dating arena. I’m speaking, of course about your own personal fears. When it comes to asking a girl out, your worst and most powerful adversary is that little son of a bitch in the back of your head that tells you it simply can’t be done. When you see an attractive girl on campus, the voice says “She’s out of your league, dude”. When you have a good idea of how to break the ice with a cute chick at a party, he interjects by stating “Not a chance, dumbass. She’ll think you’re a tard”.  It’s this voice inside of you that casts so much doubt, that you MUST first eliminate. I’m not saying be reckless in your approach to asking a girl out. That couldn’t be further from the truth. But in order to orchestrate your date, it’s absolutely imperative that you first orchestrate your own initial approach. So first thing’s first, fellas. You need to isolate that voice in the back of your head. You need to identify it, apprehend it and promptly take it out behind the shed and kill it. This also serves as a game changing dual purpose tool as well. Because let’s face it guys…  With regard to impressing the ladies, it’s all about confidence. It’s all about swagger.

-The Activity-

She said yes! Fuck yeah! Congrats, big guy… You’ve successfully conquered your fears, subdued your personal doubts and went in for the kill. But now what? She’s game. That’s fantastic. But you’ve got to find something for the two of you to do. And it’s of the utmost importance that you be creative. This is your chance to plan a wonderful time and get out of it exactly what you want. Don’t just invite her over for a box of pizza rolls and four hours of Call of Duty. While that may seem like a great way to spend a lonely evening with yourself, it’s perhaps the best way to ensure that you’ll have a lot of lonely evenings to yourself, thereafter. Be spontaneous. And again, creativity is king here. I’d shy away from many of the conventional approaches. The first of which being the movie theater. The first date is designed to serve primarily as an opportunity for the two of you to get to know one another outside of your respective social circles. If you decide to bring her to the movies, you will succeed in two things. 1.) There will be ZERO opportunity to converse and connect. Besides, the first date is very sales-oriented. You desperately need this time to sell yourself and what it is exactly that you’re all about. 2.) You’ll be so wrapped up in your sinking ship of a first date that you won’t even be able to enjoy the movie. And neither will she. So again, I reiterate…  Be creative, be spontaneous and find an activity that allows you to get to know one another in a relatively stress free and open environment.

-The Preparation-

Well, here you are. You’ve come quite a long way in a terribly short amount of time. You’ve set a date. You’ve specified the time. And unless you’re a staggering moron, you have a rough outline of what you plan to do together.  You’re digging through your closet, sniffing crumpled articles of clothing in a desperate attempt to find something that isn’t stained by Cheetohs or Bud Light. With regard to this issue, stop sniffing the laundry this very fucking moment! Dude, get real. It’s a first date. You need to be on point right now.  You not only need to act the part, but you need to look and smell the part. Now, exactly what you should wear is entirely dependent on the situation. Whatever the date’s venue is will dictate your required level of dress. In this case, you need to prepare for any eventuality. Perhaps the chemistry won’t be there. Perhaps you won’t even come close.  However, you absolutely must act as if you’re going to sleep with her tonight when it comes to pre-date preparation. Brush, floss, trim your fingernails, do something reasonable with your hair and throw on a little bit of cologne. THROW ON A LITTLE BIT OFCOLOGNE!!  I cannot stress this enough.  In the case of cologne, less really is more. Your primary focus here is to allow her to get just the faintest glimmer of a scent. The idea here is that it’s a fishing hook. You bait it, the fish bites….WIN! You want her to pick up the scent and WANT to follow it closer. Not become overwhelmed by the overpowering odor and call in a HAZMAT team. And lastly, make your bed. Keep your place tidy. If you’ve got a roommate, spot him some cash or bribe him. Do whatever you deem necessary, but get him the hell out for the evening. Should the date go rather well and you end up bringing her back to your place, you don’t want to get caught with your pants down. The idea is for her to manually do that for you. My personal philosophy is this…  Make your bed, fuck in it later. Don’t make your bed, jack off in it alone. It may seem somewhat odd but I can personally assure you that it works.

-Execution-

The fundamental components of a successful first date are all worthless if you can’t get the job done. Conversation is key here. You need to be open, smiling in abundance and generally interested in what she has to say. If you get the hint that she’s a little apprehensive or nervous, simply take the reigns and tell her a funny story or two. But good listening skills on the first date are 100% indispensible. It’s just as simple as that. Acting naturally and appearing easy going, yet goal oriented is a must as well.  She needs to feel as if you’re comfortable to be around, but still firmly in control of the situation.  Once the date has reached its apex, you’ve come to the great crossroads. If you have the opportunity to sleep with her, go for it. However, you need to exercise caution here. If she is down for sex right off the bat, then you need to consider the fact that she may just not be the girl to take home to mom and dad. I could go on for days about this little conundrum, but the facts are inexplicable.

Here’s the long and short of how to orchestrate your first date. I’ve laid it out as simply and as streamlined as it possibly can be.  Now the ball’s in your court. I’d like to leave you with one final piece of advice… Go balls out, gentlemen. Suspend your fears and disbelief. Be prepared for any eventuality. Because luck plays a huge part in first dates. Then again, luck is merely when opportunity meets preparation. Now get out there, grab a drink, slap an ass or two and get the job done!